Don’t set up abstinence to fail
Once again Mark Peterson exposed his amoral and anti-God sentiments when writing about sex education classes in public schools. By his words I understand he does not believe people can live a life according to God’s standards. I find that nonsensical for several reasons, three of which I’ll share.
First of all, in generations past, sex outside of marriage was not an activity society accepted; therefore most people exercised self control and waited for marriage for a blessed sex life. It was good for society and good for them personally. And, it was attainable.
Secondly, he cites a study saying, “Young people who participated in abstinence-only programs were just as likely to have sex before marriage as their peers who didn’t participate.” I easily found studies showing the opposite.
Abstinence-centered programs for kids work well when done right. Abstinence-centered programs need to be reinforced year after year. Kids need to hear the message that waiting until marriage to enjoy sex is attainable and better; kids want to hear the message that they are worth waiting for. If we present anything less, we are letting them down.
Just imagine the impact of abstinence-centered programs in schools at the rate of Mark Peterson approved programs telling kids, “don’t do it, but if you do, use a condom.” Those types of programs do not bring a message of hope and success to kids. The message is they are bound to fail, so deal with it.
Teachers teach for results. We need teaching to reinforce values, which build up kids and help them attain the best; programs that teach kids how to wait until marriage for sex, why to wait and the benefits of marriage. Let’s keep on that track.
Thirdly, since God created sex for marriage, then waiting until marriage is attainable and best.
Town of Trenton
Mary Weigand is one of the local fundamentalists who have opposed teaching evolution and science-based sex ed -- and including gay bashing in the school district's definition of hate speech.
I suppose in Ms. Weigand's universe, people like me who were raised ELCA Lutheran, are amoral and anti-God.
More's the pity.
I wonder how Ms. Weigand would reply to findings that indicate evangelical teens actually have sex sooner than the rest of us anti-God type Christians?
One which topic, see: Red Sex, Blue Sex: Why do so many evangelical teen-agers become pregnant?
On average, white evangelical Protestants make their “sexual début”—to use the festive term of social-science researchers—shortly after turning sixteen. Among major religious groups, only black Protestants begin having sex earlier.
And one more while I'm thinking about it. For an evangelical's take on all of this, see the remarkably interesting Shelby Knox.
I mention it in passing.